There is Only US, There is no Them

Enemies, rivals and the like are not them – they are us.  It is all US.  What we sometimes see as enemies are our neighbors, our friends we haven’t met yet.  Others, when we get to know them, are more like us than they are different.  We should spend our time focusing on how we are the same and how to collaborate so each will benefit.  We all share the same water, land and air – the commons – and for any of us to function well, we all need the commons.

Our economy is a subsystem of our ecology.  Big corporations, although the US government mistakenly has categorized them as people with rights, unfairly use and damage the commons to turn a profit.  Destroyed commons means we all lose, including those corporations.

Corporations use an unequal share of water, land and air, and yet for some reason our government gives them tax breaks.  Taxes are a way we invest in society.  By giving corporations tax break, it is saying they do not have to pay to maintain these commons.  If you want to learn more, I recommend Thom Hartmann.  I just listened to his book, “Screwed” and he also has a youtube channel here.

Hartmann’s big issue is the vanishing middle class.  An example of some things shared in the book “Screwed” were his description of how we had recently heard the concern, “Do you want government determining your healthcare?” He explains that such a claim is just half the story. The real question is do we want government making that decision or a a corporation whose main objective is profit to make that decision?

We are all in this together and we are all connected and that is why I believe what Thom Hartmann promotes is related.  It is all a system, so we need to make the system work better to realize benefits.  To improve the system we can, “Make a Wave!”  The Ripple Impacts all in the path.  Six degrees of separation are really six degrees of connection.  Our connections are an example of Selfish, Selfless, Synergy because helping others helps the system which helps us.

As W. Edwards Deming demonstrated, to improve, we must improve the system. He demonstrated up 98% of the issues faced can be improve by improving the system.  Attempting to improve by treating all issues as special situations that need unique solutions only makes things worse.  Our focus needs to be on how to improve the system by making what we have work better.

For example, I was just in a class that focused on health literacy and its importance.  Instead of suggesting new programs that take money from the system to support those special efforts, the best solution is to improve system. We should highlight the associated relationships as we improve education, while we also improve health care professional, client or patient interactions and improve information provided.  Our efforts should improve what we are already doing.

We are all connected.  We all share this world.  Our economy is a subset of our ecology.  Optimizing instead of maximizing is what nature does, it helps all areas thrive while it also enables, supports and creates interactions that facilitate more complex organisms to evolve.  These new organisms evolve if and only if they help support and build life to make it a better place for all to live.

I look forward to hearing how you make the system work better so we all benefit by generating comprehensive improvements by creating pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic, interactions so everyone and everything benefits. Make it a Great Week!

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

Contact me at:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

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Everything Happens for a Reason! Make it Good!

Everything does happen for a reason. At least we want to believe things happen for a reason, even if it is a distasteful reason. We want a reason because it is harder to live with the idea that things happen for no reason. The brain can’t process unknowns or believe there is NO reason for why things happened (I suggest you see related posts I made about Meaning and meaninglessness in life here and here).

Things happen for a reason, but it is not the reason most think.  We all want to live in a world that makes sense and is fair so we believe that anything that does happen, had to happen and that there was a logical cause. We especially want this to be true if suffering or difficulty was involved.  Nobody wants there to be meaningless suffering.

During my adult years I have come to the conclusion that everything does happen for a reason, but it is the reason WE decide, it was not preordained.  This belief has evolved from life experiences and from my multiple readings of Harold S. Kushner’s incredible book, “When Bad Things Happen to Good People“. A book I STRONGLY recommend you read.  After all, is there anyone that has not known suffering?

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If you are not aware, I was the passenger in a  car that collided head on with another.  My result was the best. I suffered a severe brain contusion that put me in a coma for a week and paralyzed me for a short time. It  also caused brain damage that eliminated my memories. My 3 friends (the driver and the other 2 passengers) were tragically killed and the people in the other car were badly injured. After I began to recover from my near fatal car accident that occurred on September 21, 1984, (see the story here) my mother recommended I read Harold Kushner’s book, “When Bad Things Happen to Good People“. She had read it.

Many suggested to me that I was saved in the car accident for a reason and God had a plan.  As suggested by Kushner, this is just wishful thinking and an attempt to defend God and was an attempt to give a reason to my suffering.  I cannot believe I was saved for a reason. If there is an all powerful, all knowing, kind, supernatural being, then my accident would not have happened.  I could of learned the lesson or whatever I was supposed to have gained from that accident in a way that would not have caused so much harm, sadness, difficulty, and death to so many.

The world is not fair, therefore finding a why or reason that makes us think the world is fair would be counterproductive.  Kushner recommends we move away from searching for why and for someone to blame because blaming the victim is a way of only reassuring ourself and that the world is fair and not a bad place.  Finding a why suggests there are good reasons for suffering, there are not.  He then suggests this causes the fortunate to believe good fortune is deserved and not luck.  A difficulty with this approach is that doing so means all will feel better except the victim.

I CHOSE the reason for the accident. I have chosen to view that the accident was a sad and tragic event that also I decided pushed me to develop skills I would not have otherwise gained.  I can’t undo the accident, it happened.  As Kushner suggests, we need a new question.  Instead of WHY did this happen to me, we should ask, “Now that this happened, what do I do now?”  I chose to get help and develop the skills and abilities I needed to live a better life. The importance of this approach is noted in the title of Kushner’s book. The title of the book is not WHY Bad things happen but WHEN Bad things happen. Similarly, Tony Robbins suggests we should notice the skills  and or the abilities we develop to deal with difficulties in our life we could not develop otherwise and use those to improve the lives of ourselves and others.

To me, reasons are not pre-determined, we choose the reason and if we choose to develop abilities not possible otherwise – then we CHOOSE what to do when something bad happens.  When things happen in life, good or bad, choose a reason that helps us learn how to generate comprehensive improvements by creating selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits.

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

Contact me at:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

Make 2018 a Great Year

“I look at what I do to see what I believe”.  If we have to see what we are doing to know what we believe, we have an opportunity to take more control over our lives. If we want to make 2018 great, we will need to be more directive in our actions.

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I heard that quote in Jim “Mattress Mack” McIngvale  interesting speech Ten Tips For Success.  I learned about Mr. McIngvale from my reading and active learning with  “12 Days to Deming“. Jim “Mack” McIngvale was one of Deming’s students who successfully used the Deming management methods and philosophy in his business.

For me that saying was a great reminder and it provided great insight.  As Tony Robbins explains, we are unhappy when the blueprint we have of our life, what we thought our life would be,  does not meet our reality.  In other words, this happens when our daily actions, or  the data we collect about our daily actions, does not paint or give us a picture of our life that we like. For instance, to make sure my data paints me a picture I like, since I say I care about the environment, I bike when I can or when I drive I use a Prius to support those values.  I also say I care about animals and the environment and therefore follow a mostly vegan diet to support those beliefs and values.

I have my students do a personal philosophy paper which is an introspection of their life. I also do it regularly through reflection and self-monitoring .  I do this to know if my actions match my values.  I do this because I don’t want to have to look at what we do to see what I believe.  Even so, sometimes I get off course and my actions don’t match my values.  When this happens, I adjust my actions and feel better for it.

When our actions do not match our beliefs or values or our blue print as Tony Robbins talked about, this is what psychologists call cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological distress) experienced  by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas or values.  This happens when a persons day to day actions do not represent their beliefs, values, and or desires.  It is not about a one time lapse as much as a regular contradictory practice. In other words, when our blueprint of our life does not match what happens in our life, we may become depressed, sad, confused….

Most of this happens beyond our consciousness as life pushes us here and there. Unfortunately, when this happens we unknowingly lose faith in ourselves because what we do does not represent what we believe.  However, rather than seeing this as a problem, see it as a guide.  When we get uncomfortable feelings, stop and reflect.  Thomas Friedman discusses this idea in his recent book, “Thank You for Being Late”, I discuss at New Responsibilities are Opportunities..

For me this means I first decide what is important, determine what I want to be and then become that person.  I do not have to be a product of my circumstances, I can chose to become something that I hope radiates inspiration and pride.  Our actions are important.  As we know, our actions speak so loudly, they often drawn out our words.  As has been said,

The understanding that our beliefs should match our actions is something I see as important and I have posted about it often. See at Choose Well: Economics is our Values, Not MathOur Economic Choices Demonstrate our ValuesUnintentional Consent: Are you giving it?Action Taken that Created a Better Future in Costa Rica;Its All Meaningless! Here is How to Create Meaning!;Serendipity? Don’t “Have” a Nice Day – Make it So!; and many more.

Make 2018 Great

To have the life desired in 2018, I hope you will do like me.  I have decided to proactively determine what I want to be and then determine how those values will be represented by my actions each day.  If I do this well, I will not need to tell people what I believe, I will show them with my actions.

In my view we are more alike than we are different.  We all want clean air, water and land.  We all wan to be healthy and happy and we all want a better future.  Lets make this more likely by our actions in 2018. I look forward to learning about how you will show our shared values and beliefs.

As I attempt to do, lets work together to create all good. Lets Practice Paneugenesis so we can  cause all good by generating comprehensive improvements with pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits.

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

Contact me at:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

12 Days to Deming

I am doing, or taking a course called “12 Days to Deming: An Active Learning Course” by Henry Neave. It is fantastic.

I originally studied Deming during my junior year of college. I then was reintroduced in 2008. For some reason I got away from it but the principles appear to have stuck with me. I am glad much of what I do uses this philosophy. I am learning so much more now.

I am completing Day 5 today and it recommended I review the attached video. I just reviewed it and think it may be even more relevant now than when it was released in the 1980’s.  It is tough to take his words because it is so different than how things are done.  However after reviewing his work it becomes clear how to use much better ways to get things done.  While this video focuses on what should not be done, his work and my work mostly focuses on how to do things more efficiently and effectively so everyone and everything benefits over the long-term.

I look forward to learning more about these better ways so everyone and everything benefits! Deming’s philosophy is the basis for the Practice of Paneugenesis I developed.  To practice paneugenesis is to generate comprehensive improvements by creating pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits.

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

Contact me at:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

Lets Give Everyone a Holiday Present

On Christmas, my thoughts are about our future. We should give ourselves and everyone a real Christmas present.  A present would be for all of us to generate comprehensive improvements by creating pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefifts. Unfortunately, there are more indications the US is engaged in other actions and is falling further behind by doing the opposite.

In the US, as we continue to look backward and attempt to recreate the past.  Despite our undeniable interdependency, we are attempting to put do this alone.  The rest of the world is moving forward.  As I noted earlierThe World is Moving Forward – The US Is Distracted…, in another example China is rushing past us with electric vehicles as to make their air clean.  Another examples indicates that By 2018, Every Bus In This Chinese Megacity Will Be Electric. Shenzhen’s 16,000 buses will be fully replaced by electric buses by the end of the year.

In addition, as they move toward more renewable and earth friendly ways so everyone and everything can benefit, China Doesn’t Want Our Trash Anymore, So We Need To Recycle Smarter. For years, China has wanted all our leftover plastic. Now that it doesn’t, the U.S. waste industry needs to adapt–quickly.

We are all in this together, we must work to Practice Paneugenesis to  cause all good by generating comprehensive improvements with pervasive, reciprocal, selfish, selfless, synergistic interactions so everyone and everything benefits.

I look forward to working together to make 2018 Great!

Make it a Great Week!

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

If you want to contact me:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax Provides Timely Message

Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax is an amazingly forward thinking book. It was written in 1971.  With he passing of the GOP tax bill, this book becomes even more relevant. I encourage all to take 15 minutes to read, or watch the 25 minute video,  below.  In my view, this book has an important and extremely timely message to share.

Here is the video of the Lorax:

Dr. Seuss leaves us with this advice:

“…Plant a new Truffula.  Treat it with care. 

Give it clean water. And feed it fresh air.

Grow a forest. Protect it from axes that hack.

Then the Lorax and all his friends may come back.”

Mr. Onceler has the same message Ray Anderson, the late founder of Interface Carpets shared in his TED Talk and suggesting he should go to jail for what he was doing:Image result for anderson one day people like me will go to jail

As noted earlier:

Do good to Make Good so you Make it a Great Week!

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

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Unintentional Consent: Are you giving it?

We all want to feel good and be good.  Everyday, everything we think and do we do because we believe it will make our lives better.  Some may doubt this, however, ask yourself, would anyone engage in an action or thought because they believe it will make their life worse? Of course not.  There is a caveat, some times we do something such as overtrain or over work at something long that is painful at the moment but we do it because we believe it is worth the effort. In other words, we believe the benefits out weigh the costs.

A basic tenet of a well functioning democratic society is that it is well educated and that it has appropriate information from which to make decisions.  Currently, and as has been true for many years, despite our desire to do good and to be good, we are engaging in unintentional consent.  This relates to actions related to health, especially nutrition, the environment, and public policy.

If we want the world we desire and is possible we must take action.  To do this I remind you of the 7 C’s:

  • Accept the Challenge
  • Use Courage to act
  • Develop Competence
  • Be Committed to purpose, meaning and values
  • Make Connections to people, organizations and the environment
  • Doing this enables us to make Contributions – we can have an impact
  • Then to continually improve we must build on those Consequences

After all, to have a better world we must take action.  The by product of doing good is less bad.  As described by one of our greatest thinkers:

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Make it a Great Week!

Be Well’r,
Craig Becker

Be selfish, selfless, & synergistic so everyone and everything benefits!

If you want to contact me:
Email: BeWellr@gmail.com

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